There Are No Specialness Fairies (or “Why you can live the life you want”)

Lately, I’ve been having the same conversation again and again. For some reason, some people who know me think that I’m special. That I have some kind of superpower, or luxury, or something, that has made it possible for me to live my life on my own terms. That somehow, the Specialness Fairies have decided […]


We try so hard to stay small. We try to fit in, to do what’s expected of us, to keep others happy. We stay quiet, never being too loud, too obnoxious. We confine ourselves, fit ourselves into tiny little compartments. We accept less, we do less, we hide our light under rocks and bushes. We […]